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Parenting Beyond Behaviors: Connecting to Our Children, Connecting to Ourselves with Rebecca Thompson, M.S.

This presentation was filmed live at the Consciously Parenting Retreat in October, 2008.

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Rebecca reviews behavioral psychology, and discusses how we have taken research on animals and applied it to children.

Rebecca discusses Principle #7: The relationship is more important than any behavioral intervention, consequence, or punishment. What does that look like?

We have the power to make things different in our homes. Making an observation about behavior is a much different response from making an accusation and taking a child's behavior as a personal attack.

Rebecca discusses positive and negative feedback loops

Tired of the same old parenting information that doesn't work? Want something different? Research-based AND relationship-focused, this is anything but ordinary. Most parenting information is short-sighted, only focusing on making a behavior stop. But parenting is a long-term process, so our solutions should also be considering the long-term relationship as we work to teach our children appropriate behavior.

This DVD series covers the 8 Guiding Principles of Consciously Parenting, taking a brain-based look at normal development from before birth to adulthood and the critical importance of relationships in optimal development. Application of this relationship-focused model is included throughout this approximately 2-hour video. Appropriate for all families, from those looking to prevent difficulties to those experiencing difficult behaviors.

Principle #1: Children unfold neurosequentially: A need when met will go away; a need unmet is here to stay. Quality, connected relationships allow for the unfolding.

Principle #2: Behavior reflects the internal state of the individual and the relationship's level of connection. All behavior is a communication.

Principle #3: Behaviors occur on a continuum: Behaviors in children (and parents, too) correlate to the parent's own neurodevelopment and attachment status.

Principle #4: Parental interpretation of behaviors come from both a conscious and subconscious place, resulting in positive or negative neurophysiologic feedback loops.

Principle #5: All individuals have a right and a responsibility to learn to express their feelings appropriately. Feelings allow us to connect to our internal guidance system.

Principle #6: Children need boundaries. We can bring our children back into the boundaries set through our relationship- loving influence, rather than control and fear- if we are aware of ourselves. (Is this about you? Is this about them?)

Principle #7: The relationship is more important than any behavioral intervention, consequence, or punishment.

Principle #8: No man is an island: We need to create communities of support for ourselves and for our children. We need to take care of ourselves so that we can take care of our children.

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