Relationship Maintenance

"At every level and every stage of development, there is either love -- and with it, growth -- or fear -- and with it protection and a thwarting of growth."

- Cell Biologist Bruce Lipton

When situations come up in our parenting, the way we handle them can create connection or disconnection in our relationship. Maintenance is really the heart and soul of Consciously Parenting and Parenting Outside the Box. Most of our parenting information leads us further away from connection in the name of “teaching” our children what is right and wrong. When we are aware of what is beneath the surface of a behavior- regulation or dysregulation, unmet needs, unresolved traumas, etc.,- we can respond in a loving way, rather than reacting out of our own survival.

It is the day to day experiences we have as parents that determine whether our children learn appropriate behavior or not, whether our children learn to regulate their behavior and emotions or not, and whether we live in a peaceful environment where everyone respects everyone else’s needs or not. It is our choice. We can create the family we want to have if we are mindful of our parenting choices.