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Stephanie Bachmann Mattei

Stephanie Bachmann Mattei is the fulfilled mother of 3 un-schooled children: two biological boys, and one daughter, who joined the family through adoption. Stephanie was born and raised in Florence, Italy, and has lived in the USA since 1993, when she married her beloved husband.

Contact Stephanie: stephanie@consciouslyparenting.com

Stephanie Bachmann Mattei, who has a Bachelor in Languages and a Ph.D. in Philosophy, is a BCI Certified Instructor, and a graduate of the 2006 of the Center for Nonviolent Communication’s Parent Peer Leadership Program (PPLP). She has been serving as an Assistant Trainer to the PPLP in 2007 and in 2008. She is currently serving on the PPLP 09 as an Intern Trainer under the guidance of cert. trainer Ingrid Bauer. She also serves on the Strategic Planning Committee for CNVC (Center For Nonviolent Communication) “Peaceful Families, Peaceful World Project.”

Stephanie has been serving for over 10 years as a volunteer Leader with La Leche League International, facilitating support group meetings, and consulting with mothers about breast-feeding and parenting issues. She has been leading Parenting Workshops since 2001. In 2006, together with her husband, she launched a local NVC based Parenting Support Group.

She offers parenting/attachment phone counseling, and leads teleconferences based on the teachings of Nonviolent Communication, neuroscience and love-based parenting.

Personal Philosophy:

Stephanie lives her parenting response-abilities as a call for personal healing, inner growth and social transformation.

Her philosophy is based on a few key elements:

• Prioritize Connection
• Healing happens in relationships
• Everybody’s Needs Matter Equally
• All actions are attempts to meet needs
• Share power (power with) instead of using overt or subtle power-over strategies.

Nonviolent Communication

Nonviolence is more than "not being physically violent.” Nonviolence represents a way of being with a quality of presence that is rooted in the commitment to honor the integrity of another human being (and our own).

NVC is a way of living — how we relate to others and ourselves. It is a way of communicating that supports connection with and compassion for ourselves and others. Out of this connection, everyone's needs are valued and we regain our natural joy in giving.

Learning NVC is learning to:

• Build relationships based on compassion, connection and choice.
• Accurately understand other people's feelings and needs.
• Be assertive and open at the same time.
• Break patterns of thinking that lead to anger and depression.
• Dissolve the fear of rejection.
• Cope with demands without giving in or becoming defensive.
• Encourage the reconnecting process of repair when ruptures in relationships happen.

As a practice, Nonviolent Communication:

• Facilitates the flow of communication needed to guide the conversation toward synergistic solutions.
• Focuses on shared human values and needs.
• Transforms potential conflicts into peaceful dialogues.
• Encourages the use of language that increases good will, and compassion for ourselves and others.
• Empowers to Know where to go from “NO”
• Provides an alternative to language that contributes to fear, guilt and shame, and therefore resentment or lowered self-esteem.

Some of NVC’s Contributions at a Glance:

• Non-judgmental approach that fosters unconditional love for self and others.
• Deeply rooted in spiritual and social change traditions.
• Sustains the radical shift in consciousness needed for transforming the existing parenting paradigm instead of making superficial changes.
• Recognizes the social context of parenting and encourages community building, not just individual skill-building.
• Aligned with latest brain research and parenting strategies that encourage early attachment and bonding, and extends them beyond infancy.

Relevant Parenting Training and Experience:

Stephanie has led parenting workshops and seminars at Montessori Schools, Community Colleges, Religious Institutions, Conventions, Hospitals and Community Organizations.

Some of her past engagements include:
Holistic Moms Network Annual Conference
NJ PTA State Convention
Parent’s Place of Gloucester and Camden County NJ

Some of Stephanie’s Relevant Training and Experience in Nonviolent Communication entailed:

Marshal Rosenberg 2003
Inbal Kashtan 2003
Sura Hart 2005

PARENT PEER LEADERSHIP PROGRAM (PPLP)
Inbal Kashtan 2006/2007
1 week Family Camp + 9 months long distance study.

PPLP 2007/2008 As Assistant Trainer
PPLP 2008/2009 As Assistant Trainer
PPLP 2009/2010 As Intern Trainer

Robert Gonzales:
NEW YORK INTENSIVE

NVC AND DIVERSITY RETREAT:
Focus on Race, Ethnicity and Social Class in North America:
2008 As Children’s Program Trainer

NEW YORK INTENSIVE RESIDENTIAL TRAINING IN NVC
2009 As Children's Program Trainer